You didn't move over to surviving the big D so I'm presuming that you would consider reconciling if things went that way.
i would if she chose to have remorse for her actions, but she is not there yet...I do think she will eventually figure it out or she might not but I can't put my life on hold while she figures it out.
you could tell her that you forgive her for the choices that she made, this isn't about anger, and that it's about making the choices for yourself that you need to have a fulfilling life.
Very well said and exactly how I feel...I know my post earlier sounded like I was holding on to anger...I am really not...I feel like I am past it...I do have moments where I can't believe how she has f@#$@ up our life and am angry for a few minutes, but then it passes pretty quickly.
P.S. BTW, nice gesture on the therapist. Doubt she'll take it and from what I've heard and experienced, women prefer female therapists so might be influenced not to go for that reason alone.
I doubt it also...I figure I win either way...either she goes and gets some good out of it or I save a ton of $ by not having to pay for it but she knows that I showed a caring gesture. She had a woman C before and I really don't think she liked her...If she goes, I think that she is admitting she needs help and that is why I don't think she will go because WAW don't think they are wrong in their feelings.
