I love this topic! Let's see how much I can remember...
1. ( Me packing up my belongings to return to my home country, preparing for shipping....H said I could take whatever i wanted ) After starting some of the packing H saw what I packed and said " How dare you not ask me what you are taking?". Me:" You said I could take whatever I wanted, and I'm barely taking anything...you'll be left with a whole house of furniture b/c I can't ship that." H:" You weren't suppose to take me literally!" Me: " Well then what...I'm not supposed to take you literally for that, but definately take you literally that you have moved on????" H....SILENCE
H: " So...what's gonna happen to the stuff?" Me: "huh?" H: " U gonna leave it in home country?" ( implying that he expects I'll come back to him once he's done with his affair Me: " Oh yeah...I'm gonna pay shipping both ways...who says I'm coming back ?" H....SILENCE
2. H:" I don't trust you" ( re: that i will head to a divorce lawyer as soon as i return to home country ) H: " I have no faith in you" Me: " You have no faith or trust in me? Who has been lying to who and cheating on who?"
3. H" don't worry when you are gone me and OW are going to take it slow and not move in together " This was H knowing I was leaving, packed up for good with our newborn son and leaving back to home country. He still had it in his mind that this was a separation!@#$
4. H" you and I don't communicate well" H's explanation for the cheating and A. A few weeks later ....H" It's not like OW communicates well either"
5. H asking me how he looked as he prepared for his dates with OW
6. H telling coworkers that he told me that he cannot help with our newborn son at night b/c he has to work. H's schedule" Mon- Fri 2pm-6pm....but he could work out at the gym and go on dates with OW and disappear for days at a time.
Oh there's so much more...but most of this was a year ago already. H did leave OW and followed me back to home country. We have been living seperately.
H dropped another bomb a few weeks ago...H" b/c we never talk I have been calling OW again and she might come to this city" H said he feels lonely, doesn't love her...he's indifferent, but tired of being alone. I asked how long he has been talking to her ...he said a few weeks.
With a little digging i found out he has been talking to OW for months, discussing her coming to my city in home country as far back as March and that H even stayed with OW's sister in another city when he first came back to home country....all under the guise he's been doin whatever it takes to win me back.
Next it will be my turn for the bomb...divorce papers to be served to the day that we have been a year apart.
BTW....did I mention he's a deadbeat dad. Our son is 13 months old and I have rec'd $60 from H. Son got no Xmas or Bday present. H" i have no money...I have expenses".....H and I make the same, BUT I can support our son...who cares about my expenses. But H has money for long distance phone calls to OW?
