I am so sorry to hear about your hurtful sitch. Mine is quite painful and I spend a great deal of my time and energy nurturing my PMA so that I will be able to fight on for one more day.
Quote: ...his reply was only on paper!
Has your H been talking to my W? That is exactly her rationale for behaving in a less than desirable fashion for the past 4 1/2 mos.
Some responses I have received in my thread of hope are that my W is trying to get away from the cause (me) of her pain. I am struggling to get out of the picture so that I will NOT be her focus. I believe that she needs to focus on herself to heal her pain and understand herself and what she wants to do with her life and marriage. I feel that anger from the hurt is the driving force in her life. I pray for God to take care of her and to touch her so that she will be able to see/hear His will and message.
I wish you well in your struggle and in your life. Take care of you and your innocent children. You know what you need best. God bless.
Oh...this is fun in a sick kind of way...I have more
1. I only told you She was stupid and ugly becuase I thoughtthat is what you wanted to hear. 2. Yes, she's stupid but that just makes me feel smarter 3. Thanks for making my life complicated 4. When you cry it makes me want to hit you. It's not like I'm TRYING to hurt you 5. (said when I was asking for his payroll info to fill out divorce papers) And NO, I don't want you back. (M) I'm sorry, what? (LSS) I said, I don't want you back so quite begging. (M) I'm filing for divorce (LSS) Oh...I know your game
Oh yeah, and after she moved out and was all glommed up w/ OM... she was at the house and we were fixing Bday dinner for daughter unit.... The kids were outside and I said I have some papers for you... I gave her a letter revoking her power of attorney for me and told her that I had a new POA drawn up and a new Medical POA in case I was incapacitated so someone could make decisions for me, financial and otherwise.....
Her response? "WHY CAN'T I DO THAT?
I said "Are you NUTS, we're separated and you want a divorce!"
- I was just testing to see if you were still the sex goddess I remembered. You're not and I discovered I need to rediscover my sexuality. (After I asked him about a lovely romantic night we had 2 weeks before bomb)
- She reminds me so much of you!
- I feel I'm hurting you too much so I need to leave. (Oh, that'll make the hurting stop!)
- There's no one else - but if there was, I need someone to help find myself.
May it be eternal while it lasts.
My sitch
Me: 36
H:34
M: 5 years
Bomb: 03/14/06
I am not sure how funny this is but my W told me "I have never liked sex and never will you know that. I have only had sex with the OM 12 times in two and a half weeks".
Of course I hadn't gotten any for weeks. Go figure
Married 11 years, together 15
Two Daughters 6 and 2
D-day Jan.14 2006
Thread 1
After H dropped the bomb about his A with OW, H found out that OW was not faithful to him in the beginning of their relationship: "I can't believe someone could do this to another person whom they say they love." I guess he thought I would be so understanding since he was now in my shoes..lol!
M:43 H:37 D14 (ours) D18 (mine) S22 (mine) S18 (his) S: 10/2004 Bomb: 2/15/05 In/out of home Living with OW #4 Talks of D for 2-1/2 years
I didn't think I had anything to add on this, but W just said something the other day. We were discussing the A (I brought it up :P), marriage counseling, and that there were certain things she would only say in a mediated forum... "out of respect for you". Um, yeah, thanks for that bit of respect, since you've been disrespecting me, our friends, and our families by using all of us in various situations so you can be with OM.
My wife siad this to me when she had decided that she was going to move out to "get her space" and I stupidly asked if she was going to stop her affair: Well, there are no winners here. I don't even know if he wants to have a relationship with me. What??!!??
This was said to me after I found a stack of love letters in our bedroom:
That is exactly her rationale for behaving in a less than desirable fashion for the past 4 1/2 mos.
