I am so sorry to hear about your hurtful sitch. Mine is quite painful and I spend a great deal of my time and energy nurturing my PMA so that I will be able to fight on for one more day.
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Has your H been talking to my W? That is exactly her rationale for behaving in a less than desirable fashion for the past 4 1/2 mos.
Some responses I have received in my thread of hope are that my W is trying to get away from the cause (me) of her pain. I am struggling to get out of the picture so that I will NOT be her focus. I believe that she needs to focus on herself to heal her pain and understand herself and what she wants to do with her life and marriage. I feel that anger from the hurt is the driving force in her life. I pray for God to take care of her and to touch her so that she will be able to see/hear His will and message.
I wish you well in your struggle and in your life. Take care of you and your innocent children. You know what you need best. God bless.