W- I have forgiven you for having an A. Me- No you haven't. W- Why do you say that? Me- Because you keep bringing it up and lashing out. wife ponders a minute. W- You're right, I haven't forgiven you. I'm still hurting and really pissed off. Me- I know. I am sorry for having hurt you so deeply and so terribly. I hope that soon you'll truly be able to offer your forgiveness.
conversation ended. But, I truly felt that was a breakthrough b/c she got honest with herself about her own feelings.
Oh, alright, what my W said wasn't stupid. It was just so far off base from her own reality due to those world-class blinders my W often wears when looking at herself. Anyway, I really did perceive this realization as a breakthrough for her, hopefully it will be for us. We'll see.
