Reading these has cheered me immensely - not laughing at your pain, but at how stupid everybody else's S's are too. So far, my favorite from my highly educated H, who is also a lawyer(!): on my birthday, which is also the anniversary of our engagement 9 years ago: "I didn't choose to do things in this order" meaning he apparently didn't choose to unzip his pants, sleep with other woman, then pursue actual relationship with OW after the fact of adultery, and then lie to me WHILE WE ARE IN MARRIAGE COUNSELING to go spend a weekend with her. Boy, he is the victim here, isn't he? also, that same night: "how bad are you going to make me hurt you before you let me go?" Yes, yes, again, he is just a pawn in this drama. Who would have thought that I, the faithful, loving, divorce busting, wife, am actually making HIM hurt ME? What is even better is what his mother said about these statements (she does not know about A, only that M is in trouble.) Perhaps that is another amusing thread - what other people have to say about our crises and about DB'ing in general. Anybody heard the word "doormat" more than once? Anyway, I'm sure things will only get stupider as he continues to self-destruct, so hopefully this thread will stay alive for updates. Erin
