We will never, ever have s*x again (this was in November and still nothing.)
I am not leaving, this is my house. If you want to leave, go ahead.
I have made a mess of things. I don't know how to end it because I don't want to hurt OW because I love her.
I knew when we were getting married that this was not right.
We are married in name only.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Quote: Steelersfan, I'm with you on the "I knew when we got married comment." My W actually said, "I only married you to please my parents."
Another similar one: "I could never leave OM, because he's so sensitive that it would just kill him."
LOL!!!!!!!!!!
Yep--they just cannot bear to even think about breaking up with other person for fear that it would hurt them. What about US????????????????
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hope, I am also a little surprised. If you look at my first post, I said I thought this would be fun, but a lot of us obviously need to share the truly painful, hurtful things their spouses have said. I still think this is a useful thread, though, as it helps us understand how universal some of the emotions are.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
Quote: Hope, I am also a little surprised. If you look at my first post, I said I thought this would be fun, but a lot of us obviously need to share the truly painful, hurtful things their spouses have said. I still think this is a useful thread, though, as it helps us understand how universal some of the emotions are.
It is painful but it is comforting to know that others spouses are saying the same things. It helps me in that I am not alone.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Try not to see the painful things as hurtful. Sure, most of it hurts really bad at the time. Some of it is said by them out of spite, some out of guilt, some out of frustration, but, on reflection, 99% can be quite amusing after a while. My W is at a point where she talks to me quite openly now, and I can ask her about some of the things she said 6 months ago, and even some from more recently. While she can remember saying these things, some meant to hurt at the time, she honestly doesn't remember why she said them. Almost all of it seems to be 'fog talk'. In fact if pushed she seems quite embarassed or even feels guilty at some of it..... Anyhow, why should they be the only ones to have 'fun' in all this craziness?
Quote: Oh this is my favorite by far. What galaxy are these WAS's from?
OM is from a small galaxy, not far from here, called MegaRectum. he is it's biggest star, recently discovered, and named by NASA scientists as Fullacrap Major.....
W is from another small galaxy, which revolves around MegaRectum, called GullibleFool, which, oddly enough, has a small star called Fullacrap Minor.....
RBinBR,
Thanks for starting this thread. You are right, for some it's useful to see the funny side of things and, for those not so fortunate it's useful to have somewhere to vent the more painful side of things. Hopefully those of us on the 'funny' side can bring a slight smile to the others while they unload their pain. Again, thanks....
Steelersfan,
You most definately are not alone. Although I seem to be laughing at the moment, I still get bad days. Some are very bad. Luckily I now have many more good days than bad days, but I do remember when it was the other way around. It was not so long ago. I think thats why we are all here, to help each other along. I know that without this board, and the many wise and helpful people on it, I would probably have given up by now. To all of you... a big thank you.
oh and BTW I also heard
"I'm sorry, I have made a mess of things, havn't I."
and
"I don't know how to end it. I don't want to hurt OM because I love him."
Now i'm wondering. You don't think my W and your H are having an A, do you?
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"Only 2 things in life are certain, Infinity and Human Stupidity, and I'm not sure about the first one."
Ya never know. Is her name Kathy? He admitted that she does live in a different place then where he told me she lived.
I find it strange he has not moved in with her, etc.
I will bet everyone that OW has a significant other.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I was going to post some of the ridiculous babble that I had heard from Dave...but as I started posting, I realized that he has since taken it all back in some form or another.
His, I get to do whatever I want, whenever I want - that's why he and RK are fighting this weekend because he took off to Austin without her. Boo hoo.
His, I have peace of mind - became, I can't live in that house anymore. I can't handle it there.
So I think it all boils down to saying things to ease their guilt and make them feel justified in what they are doing. Eventually they realize that its not all its cracked up to be.
