sam2004, We went yest. to court and nothing was accomplished we now have to go to mediation and that should be fun we could have had it done yest. but H would not agree so I don't know what to think it's like you said the unknown anyway her is my e-mail address baringerj@sbcglobal.net after the court I called H and told him if he wanted to come and get some more of his stuff he could and then we talked and it was ok but after a little while I told him i thought that I wanted to reconcile but now thats not what I want I just want it over so I can move on with my life and find the happiness that I deserve and I told him to enjoy his life and I hope he finds happiness like I have (by myself) and ofcourse he said I know you have a boyfriend and other hurtfull things and I hust said untill the lawyer tells me otherwise I'm still married. thnks for the advice I just want to be his friend if nothing else so my kids be happy to. How is your relationship now with you ex any chance of getting back together? Joa.
