One Wish...I will talk to you later...I can call you as early as 7PM Eastern if that works for you...
Lancer and Cat...I am so joyful about my sitch now and I am caught between trying to help and having God teach me a lesson I will never forget if He thinks I am a know it all or having Him maybe use me as an instrument of happiness for others...with that said, I can tell you what worked for me in a sitch which was darker for a longer period of time than nearly any others on this board as recent as a few weeks ago...it was deprivation dark, an abolute and total darkness...
One has to find it within themselves to "lean into" their fears...confront it and look D or anything in life squarely in the eyes...resolve yourself that you are not only going to defeat it but you will destroy it so badly that it will never have a chance to touch you...sort of like the way the Yankees (can you tell I love the Yankees??) play the seventh game of the World Series...they dont go into the game fearing defeat and even if they are down ten runs going into the ninth inning they still think they are going to rally and destroy the other team...
The only way to have that resolve is to detach and GAL...most of the deepest inner fortitude for me came through prayer...that was the most powerful piece...it took it to the next level and beyond...
Even now I am so contented and at peace with my W that I dont bring up R talk...I dont feel a need to...I have no burning issues that I have to talk about...dont get me wrong...I am not whipped and I am not always agreeing but there is a level of good will and contentment between us that supercedes any feeling of need for her or I...it is just a natural "flow" free of anxiety or worry...it is truly incredible!!
Well, off to a dinner appointment...be back in a couple of hours...stay strong folks, have faith in yourselves and Him...it will all work out according to His will!!
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads...=5&o=31&fpart=1
