I see how you got that from my post. I didn't mean they don't want to be sexy to their spouse. I didn't sey they don't want to feel sexy either. My point was misconstrued because I did't make it clearly. Also, I'm not referring to ALL LD spouses out there.
What I meant was.....that many (not all yet again) LD spouses, when feeling pressured by their HD spouse will do things to not appear "sexy" to their HD spouse in order to avoid that invitation. This is not out to all LD people. Remember nicegal I used to be LD too. I certainly didn't want my H at that time not to find me sexy or unattractive. Of course I wanted him to be attracted to me....even then I did have a sexual nature to my personality. Often though there are much begger relational issues going on that keep someone in an LD state....that keeps them from being "intimate" on many levels....that doesn't necessarily mean they don't want their SO to find them "sexy".
