I should probably post an update. Thanks. I don't want to steal the thread here..so I'll answer briefly.
Sometimes H was flowery...before engaged he was more engaging with words. I think he was just horny! ha ha
I THOUGHT I was sexually adventureous! I really did. I thought I was hot! ha ha...found out later that I really was not. ALl my girlfriends and I would laugh about how much my H would love life with me...I'd practice dancing in front of them...though it was silly...I thought I was pretty sexy. NOT! In comparision to what I should have been.
I USED TO withhold sex until I got sufficient romance...or just the feelings I was looking for. That was wrong. By the time I learned it...he quit wanting sex with me.