Why don't you just one night rip the freakin things off her. Wow Chrome, look at you go Now how about taking your own advice? Hmmm?? Or is that the plan for tonight?!
"Wow Chrome, look at you go Now how about taking your own advice? Hmmm?? Or is that the plan for tonight?!"
That advice was for CeMar and doesn't apply to me ... yet. Don't worry LFL, I've got plans, and one night, when she least expects it, she is going to have one tattered set of PJs to throw away the next morning.
No, I have set a moratorium on sex until about one month after newborn starts sleeping through the night, and will stick to my word (part of the whole trust building thing). The W and I are working through other things right now, and need to focus on that. I want her to remember these months as the time when I was willing to sacrifice one of my needs for the greater good of our relationship. Not as a martyr, but as a man with a plan, a long term plan.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
No, I have set a moratorium on sex until about one month after newborn starts sleeping through the night, and will stick to my word (part of the whole trust building thing). The W and I are working through other things right now, and need to focus on that. I want her to remember these months as the time when I was willing to sacrifice one of my needs for the greater good of our relationship. Not as a martyr, but as a man with a plan, a long term plan.
Well, that sounds good, although I hope you don't go stir crazy in the meantime. Glad to hear she gave you a R book though. That shows some effort. Now if you can just translate all that great knowledge into some action. So how many more months of no nookie are we talking about here approximately? Isn't that baby 6 months old now? Happy Valentine's Day!
"Well, that sounds good, although I hope you don't go stir crazy in the meantime."
I am, but I can handle it (no pun intended).
"Glad to hear she gave you a R book though. That shows some effort. Now if you can just translate all that great knowledge into some action."
Yes, very cool. I was appreciative. That is the plan, action, doing rather than just talking. Talking too much kills the feelings anyway.
"So how many more months of no nookie are we talking about here approximately? Isn't that baby 6 months old now?"
I'm going to guess two more months. I do have a lot of traveling to do in March anyway, so April sound like a good month for renewal. The newborn is approaching 5 months
Happy Valentine's to you too LFL.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
I don't know how to copy and paste on here..sorry. You said the LDS don't want to look sexy, etc.
Ok...I am a LDS...but I HAVE ALWAYS WANTED my husband to think I look sexy. Now he'd say I'd want him to look but not touch...not true. Just don't go straight for the breasts or the crotch only every time!!!! Try the JOhn Grey method on Men/Mars...Women/Venus...wow! His description of how to have foreplay was AMAZING...I could hardly listen to it ...it gets me hot thinking about it how...how he descirbs men should "go for it"...as it was too great!
Anyway...so are all LDS not supposed to want to feel sexy? I want to know I am beautiful and sexy to him...but even when I was 5'7" and 128 lbs...my butt was sagging..he said. Kinda hard to get motivated anymore. Still 5'7"...weight is a mystery number now!
What if you do want to feel sexy? I mean I want to wear the sexy stuff...always have...I just wanted to have romance and romantic words mixed in...am I LD? ha ha WHAT am I? Now that is the question.
Nice, I have long thought that you and your H need to learn to meet in the middle. It will not always be romance and love, sometimes it will be grabby and dirty. And, for him, he needs to chill out on the dirty aspect of it and learn how to woo.
How was he in the beginning? Was he romantic and flowery with his words?
How were you? Were you sexually adventurous?
What happens when you meet his sexual needs? Does he get more romantic? Or do you withhold the sex until he can be sufficiently romantic?
Sorry for all the questions; just glad to see you posting again!
I should probably post an update. Thanks. I don't want to steal the thread here..so I'll answer briefly.
Sometimes H was flowery...before engaged he was more engaging with words. I think he was just horny! ha ha
I THOUGHT I was sexually adventureous! I really did. I thought I was hot! ha ha...found out later that I really was not. ALl my girlfriends and I would laugh about how much my H would love life with me...I'd practice dancing in front of them...though it was silly...I thought I was pretty sexy. NOT! In comparision to what I should have been.
I USED TO withhold sex until I got sufficient romance...or just the feelings I was looking for. That was wrong. By the time I learned it...he quit wanting sex with me.
I see how you got that from my post. I didn't mean they don't want to be sexy to their spouse. I didn't sey they don't want to feel sexy either. My point was misconstrued because I did't make it clearly. Also, I'm not referring to ALL LD spouses out there.
What I meant was.....that many (not all yet again) LD spouses, when feeling pressured by their HD spouse will do things to not appear "sexy" to their HD spouse in order to avoid that invitation. This is not out to all LD people. Remember nicegal I used to be LD too. I certainly didn't want my H at that time not to find me sexy or unattractive. Of course I wanted him to be attracted to me....even then I did have a sexual nature to my personality. Often though there are much begger relational issues going on that keep someone in an LD state....that keeps them from being "intimate" on many levels....that doesn't necessarily mean they don't want their SO to find them "sexy".
To be honest with you....I think most women want to "feel" sexy, wanting to feel that way doesn't mean you necessarily want to participate in the a sexual act itself....unfortunately LOL...I remember all too clearly how that felt for me. I know that will boggle some people's minds out there
Glad to hear she gave you a R book though. That shows some effort. Now if you can just translate all that great knowledge into some action. So how many more months of no nookie are we talking about here approximately? Isn't that baby 6 months old now?
