Ignoring the LD spouse never works. I have done it and so have many other men on here. We can go for months and never try anything with our wives and yet they still come to bed dressed as eskimos.
Many HD people need skin time. I think part of the problem is that some people are VERY comfortable with who they are and I think that most LD's are NOT in some way. Being naked in front of your spouse requires that you be VERY comfortable with yourself, which is sexy in its own right. I personally HATE pj's opn my wive, it makes it virtually impossible to arouse her, she is one of those people that has their arousal pattern backwards. SO it takes a lot of work to arouse her, and it is ten times harder when all the good spots are virtually impossible to get to.
