Quote: In Dr. Laura's book, I think it is 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands', there is an area that addresses this issue (I read the whole sex chapter in the bookstore). She talks about how husbands have a need to see their wives nude, and should not have to rely on looking at a Playboy magazine to see a nude woman. We don't need our SO's running around the house nude all the time, but it would be nice if we could see them in the shower, perhaps changing out of their clothes into pajamas, etc.
H used always to make some admiring comment or another whenever he caught me nude. Sometimes I would act all coy and sometimes not. The coy thing was just playful but in his low self-esteem way sometimes he would take it badly. Other times I would find it annoying. Like Christ can't I just get undressed and into bed without some comment But mostly I was fine with it, liked it. Now he never seems to do it anymore. I don't prance around like an idiot trying to get his attention. I just dress/undress in front of him like I always have and I never get a single comment. Now I could take this badly and think I'm getting old/fat/ugly but I know I'm not, I'm in good shape and still cute. Why does he no longer seem to notice? We've been through this before. He went through a phase of it when we had been married for about 3 or 4 years. I was 34 and climbing the freaking walls! And yes then I did prance around like an idiot in lingerie and stuff trying to get him interested - it only made it worse if only I had know then what I know now, that kind of persuing behaviour never pays off.
The weirdest thing was just a few days after S was born and I looked awful - all wobbly belly and distended breasts - and he was looking at me naked with this strange look on his face which I took to be disgust. And I said "why are you looking at me like that" and he said "because I'm lusting after you and I can't have you until you've had the post-natal check up". Weird, there I was thinking I looked like something the cat dragged in and he was feeling sexual frustration by setting eyes on me.
You never know, some of the LD wives that cover up like eskimos may have caught that same look on H's face and never dared ask why he looked at them that way. Just assumed it was disgust and never dared show their bodies again
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
But mostly I was fine with it, liked it. Now he never seems to do it anymore. I don't prance around like an idiot trying to get his attention. I just dress/undress in front of him like I always have and I never get a single comment. Now I could take this badly and think I'm getting old/fat/ugly but I know I'm not, I'm in good shape and still cute. Why does he no longer seem to notice? We've been through this before. He went through a phase of it when we had been married for about 3 or 4 years. I was 34 and climbing the freaking walls! And yes then I did prance around like an idiot in lingerie and stuff trying to get him interested - it only made it worse 
if only I had know then what I know now, that kind of persuing behaviour never pays off.
