Two thumbs up on the new screen name - definitely an improvement!
I understand everything you are saying, and feel the same way. Have you expressed to your wife how seeing her undressed makes you feel loved, important to her, etc.? Unfortunately, it is so tough to get over that issue of her being self-conscious. My fiancee has put on about 40 lbs since I met her, and she is very self conscious about her weight. She also will not dress/undress in front of me, etc., no matter how beautiful I tell her she looks.
In Dr. Laura's book, I think it is 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands', there is an area that addresses this issue (I read the whole sex chapter in the bookstore). She talks about how husbands have a need to see their wives nude, and should not have to rely on looking at a Playboy magazine to see a nude woman. We don't need our SO's running around the house nude all the time, but it would be nice if we could see them in the shower, perhaps changing out of their clothes into pajamas, etc.
