Ebb & Flow

[RBinBR]

Hope, I may be in the minority here, but I would say that you don't need to get a D right now if you don't want to. Knowing how strongly you still love your H, I would tell you that maybe you should simply get a legal separation, with a division of assets and a financial settlement. At that point, you can truly remove him from your life for a while, which is what you need. He is only a source of pain for you right now, and you need time and space to heal. With all the financial stuff done, getting a D then becomes very simple when you want it to happen.

On the other hand, it sometimes happens that the process of working with lawyers and dividing assets is the thing that brings a wayward spouse to his senses. He sees the future that's ahead of him and decides he doesn't want it. Or after the separation, he decides that he misses you and wants you back. I don't want you to get your hopes up at all, but I don't think there's anything wrong with giving your H every chance to reform. You will at least have the peace of knowing that you did everything you could.

So that's what I would do if I were you. Of course, this advice is probably worth what you paid for it.