Thank you for your wishes...i don't know how my sitch is going along, but what can i do?
I understand the loss that you feel regarding the friendship and companionship you had with your H. And i know how hard it is to accept that you 2 won't be together. I do the same thing, so i don't really know what to tell you. We are grieving a loss, and like every loss, there is a stage of denial. We are being asked to deal with something that we never thought we would have to deal with. It is difficult to let go of the plans you had made for your life with your H. And although you had a life before your H, what you have known for the past 15 years is a life with your H. When people marry, they become partners, so i think it is only normal to plan for things as a couple. If you only planned for YOUR life individually, then what would have been the point of getting married in the first place. Does that make sense?
We don't know what the future will hold. But, as hard as it is now, you have to try to focus on yourself. You can grieve for your loss. And you can cry and feel horrible and wish that things had been different. That is all okay, if you ask me. But, you also have to try to be good to yourself and take care of you.
