Thanks, Rob, for your thoughts; you too, Imdi. I thought a lot last night about things and the truth is I still don’t want to divorce. The problem is that H. is so unwilling to come back for a trial period, or work on our marriage at all, that I feel my hands are tied. How long can we live this way? He feels I’m dragging this out (because I won’t file), meanwhile he does nothing either so we suffer apart for months. Flaneur, I really DON’T want to file. However, H. and I can’t afford to keep living this way. Our mortgage is very high because of where we live and H is now paying rent and a second set of utilities for where he’s living. I know if we want to get top dollar for the house, selling it this spring is ideal. I have been told that even if we do D., H. would have to continue to cover my medical as part of the settlement. So, my health insurance isn’t something I’ve been worried about. I hope I haven’t been misinformed. I think he’s reached his limit and will probably file soon if I still continue to refuse to do it. I wonder what kind of grounds he can use?
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
