I know you aren't honey...I was just saying that I had been there (ow being prego), only I was prego at the time...it was a very difficult time for me emotionally. Anytime the ow becomes pregnant or you find out about any love child, especially when you find out that so much has taken place that you had no clue about...it screws you up. I don't care what they say, it just does!!
Hey people go through all these grieving stages at their own paces, some of us quicker than others. I don't know what makes the difference how some can just move on quicker than others. It doesn't mean we love them any more or less than anyone else loves their WAS. I guess it may just be an internal decision that we make. If you get a chance there is a wonderful thread that a girl started on Surviving called doing the NEKKID dance and several of us have been posting on there about just being over it, getting over it. You may just want to check it out. Again, it's one of those YMMV. You've gone through a tremendous amount of pain honey...when you know you have finally let go, you will know. Unfortunately there really isn't anything anyone can say or do to make you go through your process any quicker. As someone once told me "You will know when you have had enough." Best advice I think I have ever received. They were right. But it wasn't until I made that final decision could I see where they were coming from. Everyone else knew, but me. I had to find the answers in my own journey.
