Hey baby doll...just catching up on your thread...and wanted to give you a huge hug honey!! I am so so sorry to hear all that you have been going through. I was in your exact shoes once. I was pregnant at the time when I got a call that exHs GF also claimed she was pregnant. That was one of toughest moments in my life. I'm still not ready to talk about it, but I know how you must feel. Feeling like everything was a lie for so many years. My heart just breaks for you.
I think NYS has made an excellent suggestion regarding the therapy. I had a friend convince her H to join her in an individual counseling session with her, for her. He did go along. The counselor listened and then quickly realized where the issue lay and started to work with the H directly. It proved to be quite a fruitful session for them both. H did not feel that he was being forced into something, he went for his love of his W and wanted her to be comfortable with their move towards the D and her acceptance. He soon got quite an earful from the Therapist. They are still in MC together now. Separated but at least going through the motions. It would be equally beneficial for you. I know how tough it was on me, sometimes it still hits me, hell reading this kinda brought it all back to me. I never went through T at that time, but I should have. Would have changed the direction of my life forever.
Im here for you...you've got my number. You call me or email me if you need me. Okay? I'll keep checking in on you...but you're in excellent hands here I just think you also need to speak with a therapist as well as a lawyer.
