Just got caught up, and all I can say is that I'm so sorry to read about what you're going through. This will likely be the hardest thing you'll ever have to deal with, regardless of the outcome. Please just remember to take care of yourself and your feelings. Believe me, I know you're on a mission to find out the whole truth, but don't bite off more than you can chew. Give yourself time to digest what you know before you heap more on.