Thank you for the support. The thing is it sounds like H. is just taking her word for it about all this. I do not understand that part. He obviously isn’t telling me the full story. I can’t tell you how many times I told him to go get a paternity test; find out. He said he knew he had to do that…but I’m wondering why it’s been nearly a year and he hasn’t done so yet? Apparently her H. is very angry and I think he must have recently found out or something, for H. to bring it up at all. She was getting a D. from him. But remember how I said I got the impression H. hadn’t been exclusive with o.w. either? Well that seems to be what has caused her to tell him she is no longer interested in a R. with him, and he mutually agreed, although he says he still has feelings for her. Seriously, my H. is screwed up. His life is over. I know I said I wouldn’t but right now I could go to a lawyer and he would be done. I don’t want to play that way but I am going to be firm in what I know I have rights to. I feel that I need to call him today and tell him we need to sit down together and talk in person. He realized last night after telling me all this that his time was up; he had to make a move soon. I told him that all this time I had thought he was just having a hard time at work, having a fling, etc. and I never realized the level of seriousness this had evolved to. I don’t know what will happen now. I feel very lost and scared. He is just not the person I thought I was sharing my life with. I really want him to find out for sure about the child and I do not understand why he hasn’t done this yet himself.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
