I’m holding my own. Talking to my sister today. She is helping me. I don’t know what to say without going into all of it, and I still need to speak to my H. again because there is a lot I don’t know yet. Basically he has been cheating on me for years. He believes he is the father of o.w.’s 3-year old. They had a fling that many years ago and she pretended the child was her H’s. Suddenly (and I don’t know why yet) she came to H. last year saying he is the father. He has not had a paternity test yet…I do not understand why. There is so much more to this and he still says he is in love with her even though they recently mutually decided to end their R. but he still contacts her because of this child. She is not asking for support financially, which also makes no sense. I believe she pushed to end her R. with my H. because he was cheating on her. He made a remark to me about his inability to stay with one person. He is not who I thought he was. Right now he is thinking, he said. He felt better for having told me about this.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
