Quote: I don’t know if it’s due to tomorrow or what; just feeling very sad about my marital situation. I know there is absolutely nothing I can do to alter things, but it doesn’t change that I feel so badly that my H. wants to behave this way. I can’t honestly think he is going to find a happier life for himself “out there”, but I suppose it’s up to him to figure that out for himself.
I'm sure part of it is the day... I know that I don't really care so much about not really having a Valentine myself... but it infuriates me that the @ss does. He and twit will be spending their first Vday together... Aw, how sweet... gag. Blech. barf. OK. Sorry done.
I know it's ridiculous to even say at this point, but you're right... you can't control these things... you can only control yourself and how you react to them... Hang in there and know that no matter what, no matter the outcome, there are brighter days ahead. This hurt, this pain - it's temporary... there is a light at the end of all this grief and sorrow... and it's not what you thought it would be -- but it'll be OK.
I'm not totally there yet, but I'm starting to see glimpses of that light. We can't control the situations we are given by our WAS... if we could, wouldn't we all be happily married again? well, maybe not all of us... but I still wish that my marriage had worked... i wish that the @ss had been a better man... but I know that he'll never again find someone who loved him the way that I did. he gave that up. he gave me up. and i can't be held responsible for that. and neither can you. you are an incredible, wonderful, fantastic woman --- and this from someone who barely knows you! you have some tea, you curl up, and you say 'tomorrow will be a better day.'
