Hey hope- Sorry that things didn't go well with H last night. We both seemed to have similar interactions last evening. My H was also saying that he couldn't go back b/c there were too many painful memories.
I will probably sound like a hypocrite, but i don't think you should invite him over to talk. There is no amount of convincing that we could do right now that would make them change their minds. If your H got another ow, i don't think it would matter much in terms of him giving you another chance. Meaning, it doesn't sound like he is getting emotionally invested in these other R. If that's the case, then there wouldn't be much of an obstacle in coming back to you. Does that make sense. I think you need to let him feel these emotions right now. The more we try to convince them that they should come back (that we're right), the more they will resist (that they're right).
I am probably not the best one to be giving advice right now, given what happened last night and how i acted. But, my experience is that they are not going to have some big revelation that we are right, they should come back, if we try to convince them of our changes.
I wish i could tell you what to do...i don't have a clue. Except that i think you should give him some space this weekend. Let what you talked about last night sink in with him...give him some breathing room.
That's my 2 cents...i hope nothing i wrote offended you.
