Another Thursday

[PArob]

I don't know how many of our WAS think to themselves "Hmmmm, what could I do to really screw him up? Oh, I know, violate his trust and have an affair."
We know that's not how it happens and YOU know more than the rest of us.

You are so abolutely right on this and I, better than anyone should know it. I guess I got to caught up in my own feelings to recognize that its not her intention to make me feel this way.

If you were/are a controlling person like me and I think we have established you are, then you must find a way to stop all this worrying about the past. You are attempting to control even that, which is silly.
What happened, happened and no amount of thinking about it will change it. Think of it like your most important detachment project right now. You need to detach from the past, what your W did, and anything else that causes you to dwell in self pity/sadness.

Again, correct. I know I cannot change what has happened and can only look to make things better in the future. Funny, as I typed that line, I remember saying the same exact thing to my W last year after my sitch went down.....

Also like you, I now have a situation where it seems as if my W is downplaying the OM (for real now) and looks to be moving him out of her life, but then again, I don't know that. You and I will both face severe tests of our new ability to channel our negativity.

Yes, I think that you and I both have some very interesting challenges ahead. I believe that I am better equipped to deal with them today than I was a few months ago, but I know that I am not quite there yet. This weekend should prove interesting.

Thanks again GH, as always, you have been a big help.