Another Thursday

[Tim297181]

Good question to know or not know? That is the question?

I have experienced both. I thought my W may of had an affair awhile ago and she denied it. I believed her but she started to distance herself, and put more walls up. At that time I thought it was her just going through a phase and I could not pin point her change on one thing. It drove me crazy the way she was acting, but now I know it was because of the affair.

Now I know everything about the OM and the affair. My W told me everything about the OM and what transpired between them, and on top of that my snooping has filled in a lot of the pieces. Now I "think" I know a lot, but it still drives me crazy. Now I know way too much and I am trying to figure out why she is still with the OM. Logic does not apply and it hurts my brain thinking about it!

So what is my conclusion........I would want to know she had an affair and there is another man so I could react accordingly and not guess. Anymore details than that just confuses the underlying issues and makes you second guess everything. The key is dealing with the basics, the affair, and the OM and that is it. Keep it simple in a diffcult situation. Deal with our own well being and emmotions and move on with our lives. Obviously all of us here want to move on with our W, but they will have to join us when they are ready!