Another Thursday

[WantToSaveIt]

I hear ya' Rob. I'm still following your sitch, and still think you and I have much in common with our sitch's.

Something I've wondered, and your post here just jogged my memory:

For guys in sitch's like ours, you have to ask yourself, "What if I didn't know anything at all? Would things be all that bad?" In other words what's worse, the A, or us knowing there is an A?

I mean, I can understand how bad it is for some out there, and in many ways I feel I should count my blessings, but there are some who are truly in bad shape, their S has walked away, and they are alone on top of being betrayed.

I wonder what if we knew nothing? We are hurting because we KNOW what happened (or may or may not still be happening), but things are actually ok, if not pretty good on the home front.

I'm not saying ignorance is bliss, because on the other hand, would there even be more intimacy, affection and love if there was nobody else in the picture?

Without going into another rehashed diatribe of what I've read other say, I think you and I should stick together with what we are doing. If we keep DB'ing, the W's will come around. I want to believe the stat I read that most A's die on their own 6 months - 2 years.

Granted, I think I'm luckier than most in that I have more safety because OM is 3000 miles away, and other than possible continuing EA via email,etc. and maybe 1 rendezvous a year, there ain't much for a foundation of a relationship there.

But still....

Didn't mean to hijack, but just some stuff to chew on. I hear you, Rob.