One of the thins that just boggles my mind is that my W continually expresses her love for me, ackowledges that there is a lot of good in this M, and knows that she doesn't want to be without me. Yet, despite all these positive feelings about our R, she still refuses, or can't, shake her addiction to the OM. It seems to me that in reading the posts here, that this is somewhat of a unique sitch.
You are not unique Rob! My W does the same thing. She does not do it often but she stills how great I am, how she still loves me, and that she could not do everything she is doing in school without me! Then she goes and disappears to talk to the OM or goes to her "study group". Or she just openly goes and has him pick her up at the house! All I know is it can be torture, and we can not do anything to change them. They have to go throught he motions and decide how long we want to wait it out. The trick on waiting is detatching and working on ourselves!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
