Hey Grasshopper, very nice of you drop in. I have been going through some of your piecing posts and some of your advice to the others, and have to say that they are good advice...
you usually seem to have it pretty well under control Wow... thanks! You should have seen me a few months ago. Was a real yoyo!!
I could pretty much copy and paste that into my thread, change the hims/hers and it would be my positives too. Wow... the WAS generally behaves similarly, don't they. I am glad that there is this board that we can share our thoughts, and experiences. This BB has helped me immensely as everyone understands the hurt, the yoyo-ing emotions, the confusion, the anger.... I have very supportive friends and all, but they are not in my shoes, and may not be able to fully understand.
I do hope things work out and even better for ALL of us!!
Journalling...
Got a text from H on Tuesday (23rd) ..said that he felt crappy. I was in an area with no coverage, so didn't receive this text till later. When I had coverage, I got a call from H...just asked about where I've been out for dinner etc etc. Asked about coverage as he tried calling earlier. Then my phone beeped on receipt of his "crappy" text. He asked "you just got the text?". Said "yeah" but I haven't read it so didn't know that he was feeling crappy. After I've read it, I sent him a text "wanna chat? you can call me when I get back to the hotel room".
Later, we had a short chat. I was rather chatty...asking him all sorts. I could tell he was a little bit down. But I didn't bring it up nor hightlight about his moodiness. Said our goodbyes..Then texted him about buying a laptop instead of PC. He texted back "will chekc on thurs. Thinking of bringing boys to Orlanda during Oct/Nov". I replied with a simple "will be fun"...then H texted back about hotel booking online etc... think he was feeling better then..
Next day (Wed)... Got a call from a friend...H's good Lawyer friend. He was very jovial, and happy and asked me "so, are you busy packing? Your H said that you all are moving to Country X". I guessed it is a baby step that H is starting to tell friends about us again, rather than ow or D.
Later, had a few texts and calls from H.... he sounded better.
Today, Thurs(25th May) Got a text in the am from H asking about the boys...and called me twice around lunch time...first time to ask about boys (and little chit chat) , second one inquired about my travel arrangement tomorrow from my work site. Said "don't want you to travel at nite on your own"...so, this sounds like is concerned about me...
Things to REMEMBER.. - Do not REACT to H's moods or words - Let go of little things.. it's probably nothing...Just Wait a little bit... - Stop thinking of the past... - Be supportive by not giving him "sh!T!" - Be appreciative of little things... - Do consider baby steps are GOOD!!!
