I don't post to you much because you usually seem to have it pretty well under control, but do catch up when I can. Your recent list of positives struck me.
Quote: Positives? - I never said that I didn't love you. - I hugged you the other night. It's not that I said to myself "okay..got to hug her. I did it naturally". - Didn't you see that I am trying the last few weeks to be closer to you. - Like smoking, I need some time to get over the withdrawal symptons. - The fact that I am telling you things... - You gave me no choice, but as a wife, it's is your right to force me - I have more things in common with you than her (is that actually good??) - I ask you to come over, and we can start anew.... - Need your support. Support by not giving me "sh!t" through my withdrawal.
Except for the "no choice" one, I could pretty much copy and paste that into my thread, change the hims/hers and it would be my positives too. Maybe there are some real differences but the point is that I think it's important for us to realize that just because we don't see huge, neon signs pointing to them trying to work on "us" they could very well be doing just that and THAT'S why we need to DB and not jump on every emotional moment that seems to compel us to R talk all the time.
I think you are doing GREAT and really hope all works out. I know it's hard for you to hear that he still loves her and such but it's all part of the process, a process that he admits to knowing he's going through. I see that as a good thing, as is the fact that he wants to be open with you (or at least partially open).
