Still Yoyo-ing About #6...

[BeingMe]

Just wondering .... why are you moving to country x, and your H isn't moving to where you and the kids are? I probably missed it somewhere in your thread.

I have to tell you that we have moved our family to a new country, and it was very hard. I have spoken to many of my countrymen, and most have stated that they couldn't have done it unless they had a very strong M, plus many ended up getting a divorce. Moving to another country is very stressful - I cannot stress that enough (ugh, excuse the pun). You are not only going to be adjusting to a whole bunch of new things, but also trying to work on your M. Plus, it's putting way too much power into your H's hands - which have proven to be untrustworthy. I am not saying he won't work on your M, and that he can't be trustworthy in the future, but it seems to me that there is a lot of sacrificing on your part, and not much on his, and then the kids have to be uprooted again, if things don't work out.

I moved to a new town in our new country, so that H and I could start anew, but it has been really hard because we don't have our friends as support (even if only as a social outlet), and I gave up my job, and can't find another one here (which pretty much leaves me financially vulnerable to my H). So, please weigh everything very carefully, and err on the side of staying where you are, IMHO, and in my hard earned experience.

Good luck, whatever you decide.