Still Yoyo-ing About #6...

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My advice for you is to forget about H (I know, easier said than done). I think H is giving you idle threats. Hell, if he really wanted a D, I think he would have filed papers long ago. He's only dragging this sitch by having two women who want him as long as he can.

I would not file papers, let him do it. Remember in my sitch, my H filed papers last July and now we are working on reconciling. H had told me he wanted a D and I had accepted that. I totally gave him up as if he were never going to come back to me. Once H realized that I was moving on and starting a new life for myself, he didn't like it. H and OW had a huge argument and he left their residence and stayed on my couch. H was trying to work things out with OW....at the same time pursuing me. AGAIN, he wanted both of us and by this time I told him that I didn't want any part of that life anymore. Once H knew that I was serious he realized that he would REALLY lose me forever. Eventually H and OW relationship fell apart.

My D is still pending. Neither H nor I have put a stop to it. Eventually, my D case will be dismissed automatically by the court if we don't pursue it any further.

When you told H that you would contact OW, I think this put him in a tailspin. Of course he's been telling her stories or she wouldn't have held on to him this long.

"your threat has changed my perception of you and I don't want to come back to you anymore".

Oh poor thing. I have heard this line too. Sounds as though H is trying to play the victim here. It was in my case. Don't let his words hurt you. Like I said it's just an idle threat.

As for contacting OW. I don't know what good would come from it. There would be things that you probably wouldn't want to know about their relationship (intimate stuff) and I'm sure she would be happy to tell you all about that. And I think she wouldn't be truthful about a lot of things too.

Forget about my sitch. DO NOT file papers. Just concentrate on myself and GAL. Can't think so I will do this...Will concentrate on myself... Yes...that is what I will do.

I totally agree with you here sista! Use your rubber band technique again. When you want to call or text H, give your wrist a twang