Dear KML/ Kismet... Thanks for your advice. Think I backslid real bad today...H came back for a couple of hours. He went to ow's place first. I know. When I asked him, he said "what if I did, and what if I didnt'" ... I am really really exasperated. One exchange of words led to another, and then I said "enough is enough. I am going to call ow". He said "I knew it. I knew it from the beginning that you are going to corner me with this kind of threat". Think he has been concocting lots of stories to ow. That he is not afraid to thrash me or hurt me since I know the truth about our marriage, and that ow doesn't have a clue?? He said "you think she will stay if she knows the truth??" He is still in such la-la land that he thinks that he and she can live happily ever after in a bed of lies. Then he said "I will break it off with her in two weeks. You spare her. You don't call her". What the heck?? Why would I care about her feelings if he is going to abandon the family regardless?? I really don't know this man anymore. He is really an alien. I thought that there would be something left in our marriage. Guessed I was wrong. Anyway, then he left and there was a war of text messages. He texted that "your threat has changed my perception of you and I don't want to come back to you anymore". So, there... Anyway, I've already told the kids and they are taking it okay.
He also said "go send me the papers. Or I will do it.". So your advice of no D talks is already out of the question since I've already done it.
KML - with my backsliding stance today, don't think that I could do either of your advice now. My GAL and a man snatching me away will not really interest him since he is willing to walk away now. Upping mystery or not also probably will not work.
I cried my eyes out today... I think I've cried enough for this man. Time to move on... I am still pondering on what to do with the legality of our marriage. Should I file the papers? Or wait for him to do it? Wait a week or two until I have had proper thought about this? All my friends and family are now saying that it is time to move on. Short pain is better than longer pain. I don't know..
I guessed the DB way is to forget about H for the time being. Forget about my sitch. DO NOT file papers. Just concentrate on myself and GAL. Can't think so I will do this...
Will concentrate on myself... Yes...that is what I will do.
