Yoyo - Seems like when H first started to turn around was when he was a little jealous about your vacation, and whether you might find someone else? Then he got closer and you made it clear you were waiting for him, and he went back to dragging his feet?
So - some possible course of action for you might include:
- stepping up the mystery and making him worry that if he doesn't hurry up, some other man is going to snatch you up. - record him saying he's going to get rid of OW and come home and then go to OW with it (this one could backfire on you, but if you get to the point where you are ready to give up anyway, then it might be worth doing.
While I know it's tempting to file for divorce just to shake him up, it's usually not a great idea - just because then they suddenly focus on you as the "bad guy" who's going to "take all their money".
