Wanna share this with fellow DBers.....took this off from the "Affair Recovery Times, March 2006"....quite funny and of course applicable.

I Don’t Think We’re in Kansas
When it comes to affairs or sexual addiction, this statement couldn't be more true. Dorothy's life was a life of mediocrity. There was little or no color to her existence at the homestead, and she felt constrained by life's hardships and by those who had charge of her life. She believed that no one understood her. In frustration,
she tried to leave, only to find herself directly in the
path of an ominous tornado that sent her helplessly spinning into a strange new land of fantasy. Unlike her old
life, this new life was painted with vibrant colors
and was full of song. Furthermore, Dorothy was no
longer alone. She found a strange troupe of friends leading the way: a scarecrow that lacked brains, a
tin man missing his heart, and a lion with no courage.
This motley crew committed their lives to assisting young
Dorothy and her dog Toto in her search for the Wizard of
Oz. Interestingly, flying monkeys, wicked witches,
and deception left Dorothy pining away for the very
thing from which she had tried to run. She just
wanted to be home again where she belonged.
I wonder if the author of the Wizard of Oz might not
have been writing about some pitiful person trapped
in an affair? How often do these indiscretions begin
with feelings of mediocrity, or a desire to feel alive and
understood, free from the constraints of life's responsibilities and no longer alone? And like Dorothy, the ambivalence generated by life's circumstances and frustrations often results in finding oneself in the wrong place at the wrong time. Catapulted into a strange new fantasyland, the individual is left to wrestle with what to do. Only then, they end up operating with a series of handicaps. Like Dorothy's team, they have no brain, no heart, and no courage.

How do you decide what to do when somebody has lost their brain? If you've ever observed someone in an affair, it is apparent they are operating a few cards short of a full deck. They lose the ability to make even the most simplistic decisions. I have seen successful men and women in extremely influential positions transformed into inept and incompetent individuals who seem incapable of making a
rational decision. They become willing to jeopardize
career, family, and future for this momentary pleasure. If
the behavior of being “in love” were not socially acceptable, they would be certifiably insane.

There's more but kinda long...but don't you think this really applies to our WAS???