Hello Hellkat, Thanks for dropping by. No, H is not living with me right now. He's got a job in a foreign country. So, we (boys and I) sort of see him about once a week or once a fornight over the weekends. Am plodding along cautiously.
Journalling... From my last post...nothing much happening. H has not been back to the country. H has been calling at least twice a day to talk to the boys and I every day. Sounded quite jovial a couple of days back. But last night, he sounded kinda down. Did text him to check if he was okay. He said he was fine. I have to admit that a whole lot of @ssumptions were swirling in my mind...is he thinking of ow? is he wanting to go back? Should I tell him to go to ow? ...but then remembered DR...there is one verse that mentions "do not second guess that he wants to go back to ow".... so, I stopped. Am telling myself to not focus on H's moods. I have to just look at the positives and focus on the boys. Shouldn't ask him anything...don't want to open a can of worms. I guessed when he is ready to take any action (good or bad), I am going to see it. So no point being impatient now...especially I have been so patient for so long. H will be coming back to tomorrow...for S5's birthday party on Sunday. S5 turns 6!!! Have to start using S6 now. Will see how things go.... I have been trying to use bits of WOA. Did that on Wednesday, when I texted him to tell him that boys really enjoyed the game with him last Saturday. And instantly, he called me back and said that he will play with the boys every week...provided he comes back to the country. So... this is a good positive. The last WOA that I did was when I told him that "makes a difference that he calls the boys every day"...and he has been doing so without fail for about 2 months now. So, think this WOA kinda works. I will see if tmrw's game transpires... then it will confirm that this WOA is one of H's LL. Then, will have to subtly use it more often.... needs to up the love units in the love bank???
Positives... * H calling boys every day * H calling me every day * H making the effort to come back for S5's birthday party * H staying in the house each time he is back, for the last 2 months.
I guessed one of the key indications that my M is going the right direction is when H wears back his wedding ring. He mentioned on Monday that he will wear his wedding ring in a few weeks time....So, will see if this happens..(have to say that I am cautious and skeptical....) But will have to pretend that all is well. As most of the DBers say, ACT AS-IF and don't wait for the other shoe to drop???
Will see how things go.... I have been trying to use bits of WOA. Did that on Wednesday, when I texted him to tell him that boys really enjoyed the game with him last Saturday. And instantly, he called me back and said that he will play with the boys every week...provided he comes back to the country. So... this is a good positive. The last WOA that I did was when I told him that "makes a difference that he calls the boys every day"...and he has been doing so without fail for about 2 months now. So, think this WOA kinda works. I will see if tmrw's game transpires... then it will confirm that this WOA is one of H's LL. 
