I think you have done a wonderful and very patient job with your W... I think you have become a 'rock' for her, that she is starting to realise she needs and relies on.... BUT rocks are not V exciting!!! I think that is the problem at the moment in getting her to move forwards with you... she still thinks these is something else more exciting out there... You need to carry on what you are doing BUT stop being there for her all the time... Create a bit of mystery with yourself. Take yourself out for the evening.... let her start to wonder where you are going and what you are doing....
I can say this to you Frank becuase I am in the exact situ with my H... He now realises he still loves me and needs me in his life - he has told me that, BUT he just will not comit back to me 100%. and why? becuase he still thinks he will miss out on something and that there is something more exciting out there... So that is exactly what i am doing now - I am still being very nice to him, but i am not ringing him as much, I do not tell him where I am and what i am doing all the time and I have started going out alot more without him...
Your W and my H need to see that we are happy and exciting people to be around, and more importantly that we can be happy without them.. they need to see that we dont NEED them.. We would like and desire them but we dont NEED them... Start making your W think abit. she obviously relies on your being around now so just go off 1 night next week, and tell her you meeting a friend.... It will work!!!
