Later today W saw our counselor. She said she got a lot of 'clarity' she needed. As you know our counselor is exceptional and is doing her best to guide W to making the best choices for her and our familys life.
Tonite W seems very happy, and a little flirty. So, at dinner she tells me that "One thing Counselor said was that you weren't sure if it was OK if you initiate contact with me, that you always let me approach you instead"
So I said "Yes, that's true. I am respecting your boundaries."
She says "Well it's fine with me if you do what you want as long as we're careful not to be seen by the kids or anyone. What we do is our business. And it gives us a chance to 'practice' our relationship skills, right? It also gives me an opportunity to be assertive and say 'No' when I don't want a hug or sex or whatever."
I say, "Sure. That's fine with me. We'll be 'discreet'"
Uh, Er, What?
So, I can initiate hugs, kisses, seduce her or whatever now and she'll go along with it because we are 'practicing' our relationship skills, implying that this is so we're better at 'these things' when we get into our NEXT relationships with someone else?
I can't WAIT for next weeks session with Counselor so I can ask her to explain how she convinced W of this! She's creative, that's for sure.
I know C is going to tell me that this is a way for W and I to have all the interactions of a 'marriage', without the marriage or the commitment or even a 'relationship'. This is supposed to be a 'safe' way for W to explore what it would be like to be married to the 'new' me, without feeling pressured by a relationship.
I know she'll say that's her reason for suggesting this. I'm getting pretty good at predicting what she'll do next. Getting pretty scary when I'm starting to understand C better. She really pulled this one out of her hat.
So, here I am. Living with flirty, sexy, sometimes needy, always confused wife who wants to 'play house' without being committed to me in any way. Says she's using me to 'practice' so she can do better next time.
This is crazy. I have GOT to have the weirdest DB story in the world.
