Today was Counselor day for me. One thing I am thankful for is that I can afford to get W and I into individual counseling every week. I don't know what would have happened without it.
So, C and I talked about all the happenings. She helped me make an interesting observation: The flirting, touching, hugging and other displays of 'affection' that W does are actually MORE often now than they had been in the past 5 years.
So she said "Would you rathe rhave her TELL you she loves you and not show it very much like she has for the last five years, or would you rather she SHOW you she loves you and not say she does like she's doing now?"
So, Counselor got me again with an answer I would have never thought of.
she feels that I should just stay doing what I'm doing because W KNOWS she made a really big mistake. She thought she met the guy of her dreams, that her life journey was going to play out easily, all she had to do was 'be single' and it would all be perfect. She'd get a job, find a place to live, everything would just fall into place.
Now she's found out she was played like a fool, that it takes a lot of work to start a business, and that men like me don't stay down forever and we're hard to find. Men with true charachter. Most men would have left this situation a long time ago.
So, C says let her keep reaching out to me, the hugging, the kissing, the 'bunny rabbit games' - they are all a part of courtship. And I am a 'new' man so she has to learn about me. She said yesterday that I am a real 'mystery' to her.
Overall I see the connection. Tonite W came home from a massage and walked by my, put one arm around me and kissed me on the cheek.
Later, she came into my office and sat facing me on my lap. She said to me 'I can do anything I want to you' and I replied 'no, you can't" so she says "you haven't stopped me yet when I di anything and I say 'You haven't done anything I don't like, when you do I'll stop you.
So, she's flirting again. And is asking me if I am really under her control.
She asked me tonite what my shedule is tomorrow morning. I told her I had no calls or meetings to deal with so it would be quiet. She said that she doesn't have any clients tommorrow morning.Then says that maybe we could 'play bunnies' tomorrow morning. Ah ha,scheduling some sex.
I almost said 'no thanks'. But thought brttrt of it
