Remember Frank, don't do anything to aid in actually FILING for divorce. Keep a line there. YOU don't want it so you don't do the work.
Quote: Hopefully she will 'get it' and realize that it hasn't been ME who has set limits on her life. It's HER.
I feel like you are absolutely correct here. It's a hard thing to realize, though. In my case, for those first years of my marriage that I did not work, I lost all faith in myself to be able to even GET a job. If it didn't have to do with kids, I thought I was in over my head. Now prior to getting married I had spent a few years in the Air Force and I left with GLOWING recommendations from my whole chain of command about my "level of maturity", my "ability to jump in and run" my department as an AIRMAN when my SSgt got sent to Saudi Arabia in Desert Storm, my "communication with then- HQ-TAC to successfully secure training quotas for our pilots".... I used to read those and wonder what happened to THAT girl. Fortunately I found her again, but I am STILL a bit unsure of myself at times. My point is that fear can be SEVERELY crippling and even if your wife's circumstances are not as bad as mine were, she can still have a hell of a time getting over it and taking her life back. IT IS A PROCESS. You are a wonderful support system and her biggest fan. THAT will take her far but she has to go the rest of the way all by herself.
I do pray she realizes that does not mean she has to leave you. That would be a huge mistake IMHO.
Hang in there, Frank. You're closer to your goal today than you were yesterday.
