Quote: c1t: All I ever say to myself is - if its working then why change it??? And if things are progressing for you Frank then why change how you are with your W?
How do you measure 'working'? That's the real question. Does 'working' mean just having sex, hugs? While she's waiting for something 'better' to come along? Or that we 'win by default?'
Quote: GH: Man, I will preface this by echoing the same sentiments as Shark awhile back; please protect your heart! Now that I got that out of the way, I really think you are on to something here. Like c1t said, if it ain't broke don't fix it. YOU know what the situation is. That knowledge should help insulate you from further harm at the emotional hands of your W.
Yes, I am 'on to something'. It's probably logical to say that it isn't just 'having her cake' because it's more than 'let's have sex',there are other intimacies. Although I have seen others on this board have the sex, the hugging, the snuggling, only to be left behind.
She obviously gets something from the closeness or she wouldn't sigh or make other 'comforted' sounds.
So, it is 'progressing' to somewhere. I am fearful that I'll let myself become vulnerable and then get hurt again. And, I'm finding myself falling in love with her again, a feeling I haven't felt for years, which makes it more difficult.
I think in the back of my mind that I need to detach more instead of participating in this. It's very confusing.
