Man, I will preface this by echoing the same sentiments as Shark awhile back; please protect your heart! Now that I got that out of the way, I really think you are on to something here. Like c1t said, if it ain't broke don't fix it. YOU know what the situation is. That knowledge should help insulate you from further harm at the emotional hands of your W. I see similarities in all the WAS who begin to come around, including my W. It's that part about being SO sure they were doing the right thing (and right person, lol) for a long time that makes it really hard to do a "180" and be with us again. I have a really hard time with that idea but then again, I am still madly in love with my W and despite all she's done, I could forgive her and move on starting this minute if I needed to. It's hard to understand how they acknowledge us, and our positive changes, but that it doesn't change them immediately. After all, we are the father of their children, the one with all the years of history with them and the one they said "I do to" right? Shouldn't they only need the slightest of nudges to be willing to give us the change we deserve? Well, you and I know it's not about all that. I am over-simplifying things but you get the gist. I think you have entered a real formulate stage Frank. I think things may still be heading towards D for you but really I think neither of you know what to think or do right now so you are making it up as you go along...seems familiar doesn't it. Kinda like dating, eh? I am not sure what to think, and neither are you, but I think you have come a LONG way, and along the way, picked up enough insight and skills to be able to deal with this turn in your sitch with your best interests at heart. As we have all been told, and tell each other, live in the moment Frank.
