Quote: I know the mixed signals are difficult - but recall that you were on the "final" chapter a couple weeks back.
Yes, you are correct. My positive energy had been depleted to ZERO. I sometimes have to sit and be quiet, let my thoughts come to me and remember that in October I was Depressed, Low self esteem and hated my self and my life already AND THEN W finds her 'soul mate', basically tells me she hasn't loved me for years and wants a divorce ASAP. It has sure been a long climb, but I DID MAKE IT. And only in 4 months.
And I am a lot more positive.
Quote: This I guess is why I suggest caution. WAS's want to keep us at arms length if things don't work out.
By that I think you meant 'if things don't work out between them and us'. Yeah, makes sense. They aren't going to jump back into a relationship with us. They have had a 'plan' for many months and they can't just abandon it. I have the added advantage that our COunselor is very straight with her. Last week she told her "Frank has become the person you said you wanted him to be in your marriage, make sure you don't wait too long to make up your mind or he may be gone." and she said "I will tell you that, with my years of experience I can tell when someone has truly changed inside. Frank HAS changed and he will NEVER go back to the way it was."
So she will keep me at arms length until she finds herself loving me, or tired of me. It'll be one or the other.
Quote: I need to keep moving on for me and we cannot get better until OM is completely out of the picture.
THat is totally true. OM takes the focus away from HERSELF and her own issues.
