Well, W has been quite the flirt. She seems to think this is fun I guess. She makes sure the girls don't see what she's doing, after all they would get the 'wrong idea'.
She took the time to tell me that a woman at our kids school who knows we are 'divorcing' said that she noticed our 'body language' when we were both at the school last week, that we seemed to be more 'at ease' with each other than we were months ago BEFORE she decided to divorce. Like we had found a way we could be friends now and we were more relaxed around each other. Of course she doesn't know that we've had marathon sex, on W's terms, and that might have SOMETHING to do with it.
Of course W takes it as meaning that Divorce will be good for us. Instead of REALIZING that we have CHANGED in the past 4 months and our MARRIAGE would be good for us now. When is she going to get it?
Anyway, she now comes up to me from behind whenever she feels like it and may put her head on my shoulder, or rub my arm or get really close to me or do whatever she wants to be in my 'space'. When I ask her 'what makes you think you can just do this?' she says (coyly) she can do whatever she likes.
She was feeling a little crappy and asked me to lie next to her in her bed and hold her. So I did. After 10 minutes I excused myself and left the room.
Tonite she asked me if I wanted to lie on the couch and let her rub my head. ok. So I did and she rubbed and played with my hair while we watched tv, then asked me to do it for her. So I did.
She was looking at a furniture catalog that came in the mail today and talking about how this one piece would look so good in our hallway.
I almost said "Yeah, too bad we won't be living here long!"
Tomorrow her mother and grandmother are coming to visit us so they can go to D15's play. They know the D story , I think her mom knows about OM. W told me we have to 'back off from comforting each other while they are here.' I kid you not, she really said this.
The woman is nuts.
I'm actually starting to get annoyed by all this playfulness. It's too superficial. She seems to get off knowing she 'has me' when she want's me. So, tomorrow I will be changing this. It sucks because I like the attention but I can't let this go on. So, I'm going to become very neutral and distant. We'll see what happens.
