LOL! No, I pictured you as tall and skinny. You look great the way you are although I'm still scratching my head over how short you are. I'm 5'10 and it is hard to imagine a guy being that short, when you sound and look taller.
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Quote: LOL! No, I pictured you as tall and skinny. You look great the way you are although I'm still scratching my head over how short you are. I'm 5'10 and it is hard to imagine a guy being that short, when you sound and look taller.
HA! I like the way you said that! I 'sound taller'. It's interesting how our society has stereotypes like that about height. While I'm not tall, I have always been pretty 'stocky' in build. I used to actually be in great shape and pretty muscular and even now I'm not scrawny. Pretty good for a geek nerd!
Although my W would be the first to say that, except for the fact that I use a lot of big words, I'm far from being a nerd. I think it's because I grew up in a blue collar home where I didn't fit in because of my intellectual differences (IQ of about 200) but still did all the usual things 'guys do' without feeling different. I ran track in high school, played hockey for a while, mountain climbing and just going on adventures. Of course, the past several years I didn't do those things because of where I was in my head but I've been gradually reclaiming that part of me. The photos I posted are only about 3 weeks old.
I learned as a kid that it doesn't matter how tall, short, thin, fat you are. It matters what kind of character you have. People will gravitate to someone who knows who he is, and where he's going, and treats others with compassion. I was a smart ass for a long time but I grew out of it. I've been president of a company, lead engineer and other positions of leadership so I've had to learn how to communicate without annoying people. And how to say NO.
So I have the luxury of being able to sit in meetings with the designers of complex web sites at fortune 500 companies and fitting right in, while also being able to hang out with my friend the auto mechanic or the manager of the grocery store and have a good time talking about any topic, even technology! I developed a knack over the years to be able to talk about my world in ways that others who weren't like me could understand and not feel like I was talking down to them.
By being respectful of others lives, I receive respect for myself. A lesson everyone could benefit from. These days I'm a lot more grounded than I have been for a long time.
Well, I can lift toy cars over my head, WITH ONE HAND. Does that count?
Quote: FRANK, WHERE IS YOUR CAPE!!!????
That one's easy. It's at the Dry Cleaners.
Sheesh. Calling me ordinary. Don't forget that I am a Super Genius. Lex Luthor had no super powers but he was a super genius and look at how much trouble he caused Superman! (Wait, Lex was a bad guy...)
thanks for the post on my thread I lost you (I lost a lot of people while finishing off uni) but am trying to find everyone again these BB threads are a maze and I have never had much sense of direction
you are a long way from were you where last time I popped in for a look - so many changes and the ones in you all positive
am putting you in favourites so I can keep an eye on you and what you are doing
Well, W has been quite the flirt. She seems to think this is fun I guess. She makes sure the girls don't see what she's doing, after all they would get the 'wrong idea'.
She took the time to tell me that a woman at our kids school who knows we are 'divorcing' said that she noticed our 'body language' when we were both at the school last week, that we seemed to be more 'at ease' with each other than we were months ago BEFORE she decided to divorce. Like we had found a way we could be friends now and we were more relaxed around each other. Of course she doesn't know that we've had marathon sex, on W's terms, and that might have SOMETHING to do with it.
Of course W takes it as meaning that Divorce will be good for us. Instead of REALIZING that we have CHANGED in the past 4 months and our MARRIAGE would be good for us now. When is she going to get it?
Anyway, she now comes up to me from behind whenever she feels like it and may put her head on my shoulder, or rub my arm or get really close to me or do whatever she wants to be in my 'space'. When I ask her 'what makes you think you can just do this?' she says (coyly) she can do whatever she likes.
She was feeling a little crappy and asked me to lie next to her in her bed and hold her. So I did. After 10 minutes I excused myself and left the room.
Tonite she asked me if I wanted to lie on the couch and let her rub my head. ok. So I did and she rubbed and played with my hair while we watched tv, then asked me to do it for her. So I did.
She was looking at a furniture catalog that came in the mail today and talking about how this one piece would look so good in our hallway.
I almost said "Yeah, too bad we won't be living here long!"
Tomorrow her mother and grandmother are coming to visit us so they can go to D15's play. They know the D story , I think her mom knows about OM. W told me we have to 'back off from comforting each other while they are here.' I kid you not, she really said this.
The woman is nuts.
I'm actually starting to get annoyed by all this playfulness. It's too superficial. She seems to get off knowing she 'has me' when she want's me. So, tomorrow I will be changing this. It sucks because I like the attention but I can't let this go on. So, I'm going to become very neutral and distant. We'll see what happens.
You know Frank, the more you guys do this stuff the more you are building intimacy, whether she thinks she is just "playing house" or not, eventually it will seem very real. I'd say that you should continue with it and let it build, and then on the off chance she decides to make her move one day, she will have something to miss. You guys are actually laying a very good foundation right now, for the future. She just doesn't realize it.
At least keep doing it and wait until you can discuss it with your counselor. The way I see it, it isn't like most of our stories here where we are living in different houses and have to cut the spouse off, we are doing that to try to get them to come home, your W is already home. You have to keep her there. Anything you do to keep her there and keep her happy can only work in your favor.
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