the long walk home final chapter - 2

[Becca1975]

Frank you and Spitfire are absolutely right on this:

Spitfire once told me that if a woman WANTS a divorce she will make a plan, and then not want ANYTHING to do with him when she executes the plan.

Something I haven't really announced on here is that I was married before and divorced. I left my first H. Something just wasn't right, we married too young....I just knew suddenly that something was wrong enough that I had to go. I went and I never looked back. I didn't call him, I didn't email him, I didn't want to be around him for even 5 seconds. I didn't file for divorce right away because I had little money and didn't know how, but I still never looked back. I took my two kids and lived in a tiny, dirty little apartment and found a job and never even thought about going back. One I made up my mind, there was no staying in teh same house he was in, there were no pleasant phone conversations. There was nothing. It was just over. As you can see, there is a huge difference in teh behavior of someone who wants a divorce and is sure of it, and the reaction we get from most spouses on this board. The things your wife does, Frank, the sex, the joking around, the going places together. That wouldn't happen. Even you Shark, as dreary as it seems, do you see what is there now? If a woman (or I'd guess a man) truly wants a divorce, they go and don't look back. They could care less about emailing or calling or sharing family time.

Frank, your marriage is on the road to recovery. I think you could feel comfortable moving over to Piecing now, I'm that sure of it. I felt that about you from the first time you posted. You were so sincere in your DBing and your love was so deep that I knew you'd do this. Your "calm and collectedness" continues to amaze me and it is a matter of time until your W recommits.