I also wanted to mention that after I finished my earlier long post, my AOL IM popped up from a firend I hardly chat with but we've known each other for years. He told me that a mutual friends son, 16, was killed in a car accident today. He had just got his license, and a new car in december and was speeding down a back road in Norther NY state and lost it on some ice and hit a tree at in excess of 60-70. HIs friend who was with him is also dead. The reports say that it was probbaly his own fault.
The friends, Al and April tried and tried for 6 years to have a kid, and were disappointed so many times with miscariages and othe problems. When they finally had him they were so happy. And they spoiled him.
I could feel their pain, and see them in my minds eye, blaming themselves, unbelief, grief, hurt. I cried for about an hour for them. No matter what our pain is, the loss of a child is the greatest pain there is.
