for some reason, I've posted twice and each time it looks like it "took" only to find out later that it is not there...
So, let me try again and update everyone/respond to posts.
CORRI: "There ain't not show to go back to, and you've got lots of work to do... but you did do SOME good... I'll give you that... "
What I meant by this was not that I'm done working on it... instead, I was telling the board that I'm done venting... I'm focused on the task and back to work on the issues again... I wanted to let everyone know they do not need to worry about me right now.
I stopped off at the book store a few days ago to look at relationship books. Wife has suggested we need to hit the books again and remember some relationship skills we are getting lazy about. I spotted a book that sounded VERY familiar. It was a PHD that came to our church a few years back and gave an excellent talk. I attended it (wife had another committment) and was really in tune with what he was saying. The title is rather scary to a "low drive" person... it's called "Sex starts in the Kitchen" - of course, they always put a catchy title on a book to get your attention. What the book is about is basically developing a day-long love affair with your partner rather then ignoring them for a week and then expecting them to be intimate with you. It really deals a lot with QUALITY TIME. Which is just what my wife was needing. So, I got the book and told my wife I picked up a book - she actually said "I look forward to reading it too" (I had not told her the title yet). Yesterday, I brought up the book and told her what the title was she smiled and said - "this should certainly appeal to you" - she meant it in a funny connecting with me kind of way so I just smiled back at her. She said she looks forward to reading it and remembers the author and has heard nothing but good things about him.
Next topic: I ask wife what "Quality Time" means to her and she said it's not about the Quantity... it's about the Quality. She said it's when I am "in tune" with her and the family. When I have a sense of what is going on in the life of the family and mentally participate.
And for those of you who think I am sticking my face in a computer for extreme hours and avoiding wife/family. It is not that way. I only do computer work when everyone else is involved and basically doing their thing (watching their favorite tv show, etc). I even pop out every 30 minutes or so and chat with everyone to see how things are going. When my wife gets ready for bed I shut everything down and go to bed at the same time she does.
Well, that's the update. I hope this posts goes in this time...
