okay - I just finished the last talk with her and we both did a 180. It's like a freaking tornado was whipping around in my house... you don't know if it's going to hit something or not and then it just disappears.
I came home and just walked up to her and said "look, I know you're unhappy. I know you're angry. I'm here to listen and I'm going to stop focusing on placing blame."
BAMM - it hit her right where she wanted it. She looked like she was going to cry. She said all she wants is to FEEL like she is important in my life. I told her that she is and always has been. If I'm busy doing something I will drop it when she needs my time or attention. She said she knows I'm busy and does not WANT me to drop everything on her whim... she just needs to FEEL seen and heard like I'm willing to work on it with her. She even went so far as to says "you know how you want to feel like I understand your needs and when you feel they are neglected you want me to respond and work on it with you and make you feel like we are a team working on it together...well, that's how I feel about time with you..."
So, I'm feeling much better now... but, I'm definately going to file away that last sentence she said because it is a total reversal of what she said a year ago "I don't care what your needs are and I have no interest in changing to meet them..."
Okay, everyone can go back to what they were doing... shows over... nothing to see here...
